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LAST NIGHT ON THE ULTIMATE STATE OF MIND - GENDER RULES
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Fri, 14 February, 2014 05:01:13 AM, in the Category The Ultimate State of Mind.Total Views 3830.
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Dr. Mrs. Thomas looked intently at Andrew sitting on the sofa to the right of her desk in her office that hot Friday evening. She was a bit agitated about this young man and how it’s been so difficult to get him to brace up and deal with his issues. But as a professional, her body language or countenance didn’t betray her true emotions. She still had that sweet, encouraging smile on her face, “this young man must get a grip and just do the needful’ she thought to herself.

The office was quiet and she could hear him sniffle and snuffle and he intermittently grimaced  out of emotional pain and frustration, he would throw both hands up and sigh heavily; collapse on the comfortable sofa and almost immediately sit up straight again. He was obviously in torment; emotional and psychological distress, he was confused and very exasperated.

 What’s biting Andrew this time, Dr. Thomas wondered, but still had her smile in place; using her composure and facial expression to calm him down and make him feel at ease. What a handsome, young man she thought to herself, just 33, tall, fair and very attractive, his curly black hair, brown eyes, pointed nose and very pink and thin lips easily betrayed his mixed racial feature; his mum is Mexican. Andrew’s been married for four years, blessed with two lovely daughters; smart, hardworking, very exposed and intelligent; lived in New York the better part of his life, returned to Nigeria just after he married his wife Rebecca, secured employment with a leading manufacturing company as head of Procurement. 

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - WHERE IS YOUR HAPPY ENDING?
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Fri, 14 February, 2014 03:24:08 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 43331.
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One of the most fascinating features of a good movie is a happy ending. Every time you’re seeing a movie, no matter how the story line goes, no matter how difficult, complicated, tension soaked and action packed the plot of the story is, you would always want the movie to end well. You wouldn’t want the good guy to lose out, you’ll always want the bad guy to be exposed, make a mistake and get caught. You’ll want the bad guy punished and good guy vindicated.  

The difficulty, challenges and risks in any story leading to that happy ending is what creates the suspense and pleasure in seeing the movie. When it appears as if the bad guys would win, you’re tensed and worked up, hoping the bad guy does not win or prevail over the good guy. You feel bad and sorry for the good guy when he’s going through and hope he comes out of it stronger and better in order to win.

No matter the type of movie, a happy ending always leaves you excited, happy and satisfied. So different from most horror movies where the bad guys would always have the last laugh; the fact that in horror movies the negative always prevail over the positive and the bad always overrules the good is the reason why it’s called a horror movie. Horror leaves you dreadful, fearful, dismayed, abhorrent and repulsive.

THE 1ST AFRICAN PARTNER AT HUGHES HUBBARD&REED BEATRICE HAMZA BASSEY
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Fri, 14 February, 2014 02:02:02 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1918.
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If you think you CAN’T… Think AGAIN!

This story of Beatrice Hamza Bassey on CNN’s African Voices is a great way to kick off the week and the month. She went to University of Maiduguri (so you can’t use schooling in Nigeria as an excuse not to chase your dreams!). She moved on to get her Masters degree from Harvard Law School where she excelled and was noticed by one of the most prestigious law firms in the US – Hughes Hubbard & Reed.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - ACCIDENTAL SUCCESS
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Thu, 13 February, 2014 04:34:44 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 3393.
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Asking anyone today if they’ll want to be successful in life, of course the answer would be a big yes! Everyone prays for success, works for success, expects to be successful in any endeavor even the bad ones.

The will and desire to attempt a feat and get the expected result is a natural pattern of thinking and expectation of everyone in life.

Success is very much related to expectations. When you embark on any project, you already have in mind a desired outcome; how you want it to turn out that will make you happy and make the effort in attempt worth it.

We all write exams expecting to pass, no one wants to study hard for an exam and expect failure at the end of the day. We all go into marriage with the expectation of living together happily ever after; no one goes into marriage with high hopes of a divorce in a few months or years. We make investments in business with the hope and expectations of good returns and profit, no one would sink money into an investment expecting to loose consequently.

LAST NIGHT ON THE ULTIMATE STATE OF MIND - YOUR BULL BY THE HORN
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Thu, 13 February, 2014 02:33:29 AM, in the Category The Ultimate State of Mind.Total Views 6112.
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I remember those times and occasions so well, she’ll laugh at me and tell me it’s impossible; ‘I’m in love with Dekola and I’m marrying him’. I’ll laugh out loud, ‘he’s not your type’ I’d tell her, ‘he’s too conservative for you; he’s not outgoing, too serious minded, always reading and doesn’t even dress that well, look at you;  you’re so beautiful, you’re outstanding you’re irresistible, do you know how many guys on this campus would give anything to have you as their babe. Girl, you’re dulling, you’re missing out big time’. 

LAST NIGHT ON THE ULTIMATE STATE OF MIND - NOT NICE BUT RIGHT
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Wed, 12 February, 2014 08:57:17 AM, in the Category The Ultimate State of Mind.Total Views 9699.
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After Bukola’s widowed mother passed on when Bukola was just about 12 years old, she didn’t have a choice as the only child and now an orphan to go live with her mother’s younger sister at Ibadan. Her parents before they passed on were quite wealthy; they ran their own successful businesses and were on top of their games.

Bukola’s late father was a car dealer and had one of the biggest show rooms and sales garage along a major road at Ikeja, Lagos. Her late mother also imported high quality fabrics from France and Switzerland, was a major dealer and distributor with outlets at Lagos Island and Ikeja too.

LAST NIGHT ON THE ULTIMATE STATE OF MIND - THESE ABILITIES
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Wed, 12 February, 2014 08:24:11 AM, in the Category The Ultimate State of Mind.Total Views 3238.
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The event auditorium was jam-packed, everywhere filled with people, all the seats occupied and those who didn’t make their bookings before the day of this event couldn’t come into the auditorium.

The night was a bit chilly, yet the auditorium was a bit warm because of the crowd and the excitement, the lights were just amazing, colorful, sparkling and creating sensational effects all within the auditorium. The stage on this occasion was far superior compared with previous editions of the event; very, very beautiful and world class in concept.

The stage background kept altering and the two mega size TV screens on both sides of the stage clearly and brightly displayed everything happening on stage; the pictures of the awardees, pictures of the nominees, the compere, award presenters and even interviews held with each nominee a couple of days before, against this event.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - WHERE TWO ROADS MEET
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Wed, 12 February, 2014 06:57:51 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1468.
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Like a journey; so are the days of our lives, a journey towards a particular destination. We live our lives daily with the hope to attain, accomplish and fulfil.

We believe we are not created just to exist, we believe we are here, on this planet for a reason; for a purpose, and somewhere in our minds we long to fulfil that very purpose for which we believe we have been created.

Not only do we know for sure we are creatures of purpose, we also know we have been equipped with the mind, the skills and capacity for accomplishment. We know somewhere on our inside, we can do whatever we choose and set our minds to do. Ability lies in us, capacity lies in us and the will power lies within us. We know for sure a life without any impact is a wasted life. Hence, all lifelong we’re in search of that very purpose of our existence and our place in this world.

Much younger as children; probably less than 10 year or even our early teenage years, we were quite optimistic about our future, we were very confident about our success potentials, we believed in ourselves and never thought we wouldn’t be able to achieve anything we set our mind on achieving.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - A BAD BOSS; A BAD RELATIONSHIP
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Tue, 11 February, 2014 04:00:56 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 2470.
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It’s a popular school of thought that most times employees don’t resign from their companies; they actually resign from or due to a bad boss.

Very common today are very many employees with all kinds of complaints, animosities, criticism and ill will towards their bosses.

Naturally, as people, we have our wishes and desires in life. Many of us have been through seasons of struggles, pains, disappointments and frustrations in our journeys through life.

We have come to know and grown to discover, life isn’t all that a piece of cake, not a bed of roses, life is indeed a complex mix of the good, the bad and the ugly. Growing up in our innocence, we’ve trusted and we’ve lost, we’ve tried and we’ve failed, we’ve had our backs against the wall several times and many times we’ve had to cry through series and seasons of agony and real hurt.

We’ve been let down by others, betrayed by close friends and relatives, failed others and disappointed many with high expectations from us too, and so many times we have done very silly things that hurt us so bad.

THE 10 BIGGEST AIRPORTS IN AFRICA
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Tue, 11 February, 2014 03:41:33 AM, in the Category Windows in Africa.Total Views 2682.
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The air transport hub of Southern Africa, OR Tambo caters for almost 19 million passengers each year and is Africa’s biggest and busiest airport. More than 18,000 people are employed by various companies at OR Tambo, and the airport plays a key role in the Gauteng province’s economy

3 NIGERIANS MAKE FORBES LIST OF 10 MOST POWERFUL MEN IN AFRICA
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Mon, 10 February, 2014 09:39:50 AM, in the Category Business News.Total Views 3169.
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Simdul founded Konga Online Shopping Limited (Konga.com) in July 2012 to be the leading one stop shop online retail company in Nigeria. Konga offers low prices and fast delivery services on thousands of products.

Sim is also the Founder & Executive Chairman of DealDey Limited, one of the foremost and now the most prominent group buying website in Nigeria, which offers amazing services and products at discounted prices.

Prior to building ecommerce businesses, Sim founded E-Motion Advertising a successful, fast growing and leading Out-of-Home advertising company in Nigeria.

He graduated from George Washington University, Washington DC and holds a Bachelor of Science (Hons) in Electrical Engineering. He proceeded to obtain a Master of Science degree in Engineering Management from Dartmouth College; he later obtained an MBA from the prestigious Harvard University, Boston Massachusetts in 2003.

Simdul has over 11 years managerial and entrepreneurial experience, which he brings to Konga Online Shopping Ltd.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - THE DREAM THEN THE MEANS
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Mon, 10 February, 2014 09:06:43 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 3342.
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She looked pretty innocent as she stood in front of the fairly large crowd that Thursday midday. She was the best graduating student from grade six, she was so proud, so glad, so confident and full of hope as she shared with the crowd comprising parents, teachers and special invitees to the price giving day and send forth ceremony for the grade six pupils in that well known and respected private primary school.

The teachers indeed have done a great job teaching, imparting and instilling knowledge, hope, confidence and faith in these very young children.

Being the best graduating student and the head girl of her set, she was consequently asked to make a speech, a presentation about herself, her life, her hopes and ambition.

And I listened attentively as she began to share her dreams of becoming a very successful petroleum and gas engineer; she said she believes in this country Nigeria and is also confident we can effectively and efficiently manage our oil and gas resources to better the lot of the very poor and suffering majority.

FAST TRACK YOUR CAREER
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Fri, 07 February, 2014 07:29:13 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 2540.
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A startling discovery was made by our sister company in research, when a hundred employees in the middle and junior management cadre of leading multinationals in Nigeria were interviewed, and less than 5% had a strategy on how they hope to become the CEO of their company.

Some believe becoming the CEO is sheer luck, some believe it’s by selection; others think it’s by godfatherism. Others just want steady salary and promotion and they’re okay like that.

In the light of this discovery I think it’s imperative to state some reasons why becoming a CEO is worth it.

  1. It’s an opportunity to be one of the leaders in contributing to solving problems and meeting needs in our society.
  2. It provides an opportunity to connect, interact and relate with influential personalities in the society.
  3. It provides leverage for exposure, publicity, recognition and vital contacts.
  4. It puts you in charge; hence you’re hardly a victim of business decisions.
  5. It greatly improves your people management skills and tough decision making responsibilities.
  6. Upon retirement you’re equipped with what it takes to manage your own business and the network and contacts required for success.
  7. Lastly as the CEO, you’re automatically the highest paid executive in the company, besides other allowances and perks. Hence you can’t be broke. Bills will be paid, needs met, school fees, training costs, accommodation, travels and vacation allowances and the likes would most likely be borne by the company.
TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - REAL CONTROL
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Fri, 07 February, 2014 06:08:30 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1531.
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I believe control is the ability and power to determine processes, directions and outcomes. Being in control means you’re in charge, you make choices and rule in certain affairs.

When you’re in control, all outcomes are determined by you, you’re not in contention with anyone as regards what you desire concerning any matter. Being in control puts you in a position of rest, confidence and power, you are happier and secure.

When you’re in control you plan better, think better and can actually make your will and desires come to pass.

Control comes through empowerment. When you have the power, you take control; a powerless person cannot take charge, only the strong and superior take charge.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - FINANCIAL FREEDOM AS A GOAL
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Wed, 05 February, 2014 07:44:43 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 3793.
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For many of us, almost 90% of our problems today are money related. If you have enough money today my friend, most of your challenges would be resolved. In fact a survey we conducted late last year confirmed more than 80% of Lagosians would resign from their current employment, if they suddenly become very rich.

Many of us, wake up every morning and diligently rush to work not really because we enjoy what we do or are passionate about what we do, we daily go to work and invest several hours working because we want to secure our monthly income; salaries and allowances.

Many of us today work very hard purely for monetary reward. We are not really passionate about achieving anything great, outstanding or phenomenal, we just want to do enough to impress our bosses, employers and retain our employment. We don’t go the extra mile, attempt to improving what we do or where we work, we just want to get the money.

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