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There are too many people who are very hardworking, intelligent, up and doing, connected and well positioned to enjoy major and frequent positive transformations in their lives but unfortunately, it is not happening.
There are even some who assume where they are at currently is a great achievement not knowing they have much more than what it takes to climb unto higher levels in life and be greater and become more glorious.
Truth is, too many of us have buried or underutilised our potentials hence, our world is deprived of all we truly have the capacity to do and accomplish.
We have many managers still working as messengers, many bank owners still working as branch managers, many media house owners still working as news presenters and on air personalities, many world class entrepreneurs still working as employees, many great people still functioning as mediocre, small timers and fringe players in the scheme of life.
These people are not very well respected, revered, appreciated, valued or honoured, despite the fact they have everything it takes to be the most valuable and respected person in their communities, their nation and even the world. These are brilliant, intelligent, hardworking, well informed, exposed and outgoing people living less than glowing lives, why, they simply lack the will to do.
Very many of us today are not quite happy or satisfied with our results in life. We do not like how we live, we don't like the quality of our live styles, we don't like what we earn, we don't like where we live and we are generally frustrated by our need gaps and insufficiencies in life.
We increase the intensity of our labour and the number of hours of labour. Yet it appears the more we work, the tougher things get. Many of us sacrifice our time of rest, time of socialising, time with our families, time of service to God and even time of sleep for work and harder labour, but with all the sacrifice, things don't appear to be getting better.
We look around and observe other people who seem not to be working as hard but living better lives and we become confused, discouraged and at times envious and wonder what is wrong with us
Are you upset about something? Has someone done something really painful and you're very angry about it and you're finding it difficult to let it go? Let's share on this today. This one, I've titled, the bait of offence.
Every human being has got emotions. Our soul comprises our mind will and emotions. Our emotions is simply the way we feel about things. We all have positive and negative emotions.
Our emotional reaction to issues and situations in life is not standard across all humans, emotional reactions are subjective. The way you react to a situation can be quite different from the way I react to the same situation. This is mostly a consequence of nature, nurture and various experiences in life.
Some people by nature are soft emotionally. They are easily moved and touched by people, situations and events. Things get to them easily, for most people like this, it's mostly a function of nature.
To excel in life, speed is critical, the ability to move and take advantage of opportunities quickly is critical to your strategy. Today let's talk about speed, this one is titled, move quickly.
It is very natural in your journey towards success to face challenges. It is very natural to be discouraged, distressed, disappointed and dismayed. You will plan, anticipate, strategize and work hard only to be rewarded with failure and disappointment. You will do all you should, consult with the very best and experienced, initiate the best ideas and possibilities and everything would come down crumbling like a pack of cards.
Situations would fail you, circumstances would oppose you, people would betray you, partners will oppose you, investors would change their minds, helpers will withdraw their support and even friends, family, loved oneS and the people you labour for and feed would criticize you and complain.
Everyone at a point would appear to be against you, everyone would become selfish, ungrateful and unloving. You will really feel rejected, unappreciated, low and out. You would feel like a failure, a non-achiever and would wonder if you're cursed.
Dominion in life comes through victories and you can't enjoy victories without battles. Today let's talk about how to win. This one I've titled your first victory.
The world by nature is designed in such a way that humans and other creatures must of a necessity fight and contend for their needs and wants. Nothing in life is actually free. You must pay a price or fight to get what you want.
Your fight is not necessarily against other people, your fight is against life situations. If you don't fight for what you want in this life, life wouldn't release it to you. Even what is already yours will be lost if you don't fight to keep it, life would take it away from you cheaply.
This fight that I'm talking about is not physical. It's actually the battle of your soul against the attacks of life. Whether you want to fight or not, life will fight you, situations would attack you and occasions would challenge you over your rights, your place and your possessions.
If you refuse to fight back in life, you'll lose everything and fail in life. Life, as it were is a series of unending battles.
Many of us today are flustered, grumpy and unhappy about our lives simply because we are perplexed and confounded in life. Today, let's talk about how to have effective coordination of our lives.
As adults it can be quite difficult balancing effectively the various critical aspects of our lives without sacrificing one or two for another. This is simply because too many areas of our lives demand for attention at the same time. Our husbands, our wives, our children, our parents, our friends, our associates, our bosses, our customers and so many other people need us to pay them quality attention.
Also our personal vision, our dreams, our ambition, our careers, our businesses, personal growth and even spiritual wellbeing require enough attention for us to have a well-rounded life.
Balancing all these and winning in all these areas within the constraints of 24 hours a day is the reason most of us are not very happy, it's the reason many are agitated, cranky and irritable.
We all want to succeed in life, we all want to progress in life, we all want to do very well in life. This desire however, is predicated on our ability to do very well in these various areas of our lives and with these very many people in our lives.
Many today have no deliberate grip or control over their lives. Many don't even understand the “how” of being in charge of their own lives. Many have never experienced a season when they are absolutely in charge of themselves. Many more have given up the possibility of being in charge of their own decisions, directions and destination in life.
Dear friend, your life is expressed and measured based on time. As the clock keeps ticking, your life keeps running and gradually ebbing away.
To be in charge of your life, is to be in charge of your time. To be in charge of your time is having the power to determine and chose what you do at every point in time in your life.
A situation where no one but you determines what you want to do with every day and every hour is really being in charge and control of your life.
As a child or a teenager when you still needed to be taught and guided by your parents and/or caregivers, yes its appropriate you submit to them even when you disagree with some of their rules and instructions, but immediately you attain adulthood, wherein you can now make your decisions and choices, your number one struggle should be to liberate yourself from every other force or system that has the power to limit you, restrict you, contain you and control you.
I'm not advocating rebellion or lack of submission, no, what I'm promoting this morning is the need to apprehend the power to make your own decisions, your power to choose and be free from controlling forces.
A life where other people and other things determine what you do, how you do it, how you live, where you live and how far you can go per time is a life out of your own control.
Again I saw it on social media, a young man on bed in the hospital all wired to a medical equipment, trying to survive and appealing to the general public to please help keep him alive. He was in urgent need of kidney transplant, and the whole treatment would cost about six million naira. Hence, the passionate appeal to well-meaning Nigerians and kind hearted people to please donate and support him by paying cash into a specified bank account.
I read through, felt really sorry for the man and shook my head in lamentation. It's not the first, second or third of such appeal I would come across in the last one year or so.
People appealing to the general public to help save lives of fellow Nigerians who have suddenly taken ill and are in dire need of urgent medical attention, if not they may die. How much? Six million, just six million naira. Hmmn
I know very many Nigerians who have worked very hard and made money and wouldn't even flinch paying six million to save this man's life.
I'm not talking about those who stole public funds, stole from their employers or indulged in crime to make money, no, I'm talking about responsible, hardworking and honest Nigerians who worked for their money and indeed can afford to give the whole six million without breaking a sweat.
Employment as a matter of fact, is a business transaction where you sell your knowledge and ability to an organization for an agreed sum of money called salary; payable every month-end or as agreed.
The employer is the buyer, the employee is the seller, the salary is the price and the knowledge, skills and abilities is the product or better still, service in consideration. The industry is the market.
As an employee, the longer you are in your industry, the more valuable you can become. If you're a good ‘brand' your value will continue to appreciate and the demand for you will increase. More different employers, will come after you and try to purchase your skills - offering you higher compensation, salaries and perks.
The so called advanced nations of the world today keep emphasizing education and schooling as the most important aspect of human development capable of transforming the world positively.
Global institutions, like UNESCO are committed to educating the people of the world. Renowned individuals have promoted education as what every society needs to be better. Super rich philanthropist all over the world keep donating to schools and sponsoring educational institutions believing access to cheaper education will help develop mankind in whole.
In every progressive nation, there are agitations and pressure on the government to allocate more in support and budget for education. It is indeed popular today to think education will improve humanity.
But frankly speaking, check recent history and current developments around the world against the backdrop of growing education, that is the number of educated people; the corruption, the greed, the treachery, the bombings, and killings, and wars and terrorism and crime are saying different; human crisis has globally become more complex, sensitive, dangerous and sophisticated despite growth in education. Through world history, there has never been a 60 million refugee index globally till now.
In fact let's bring it home to Nigeria our own country, despite the number of growth of educated Nigerians in recent years, there has been in fact, a decline in the quality of our lives generally speaking as a nation.
Let me say this, as an entrepreneur, as a business or team leader, your enthusiasm, your opinion, statements and body language go a long way in influencing the thoughts, actions, disposition and response of your team members to work, productivity and general performance.
When as a leader, your dialogue and meetings celebrate all that is adverse and not working right now, you diminish the morale of the team and contract the possibility of great performance by your team.
A good leader shouldn't recount, recite and rehearse economic problems, economic setbacks, adverse policies and general limitations to their business. The worth of a good leader is best put to the test in seasons such as this. What makes anyone a good leader is beyond academic qualifications, titles, hard work and even experience. Your worth as a leader is in having correct answers and solutions superior to those of your subordinates and in fact your competitors at this time.
Entrepreneurship and business is a tough game, it's not about self-esteem, gains and profits alone; it's a contest and battle for market territories and shares. It's a battle for the mind, the patronage, the pocket and loyalty of the customer. It's about being superior to competitors at your game. It's about superior thinking, superior methods, superior speed and impressive delivery in the market place. It's about being better and always being a step ahead of your competitors.
The quality of your life and experience today, who's really responsible? Is it your making? Let's share on that this morning.
Many of us many times get confused about life. We look at so many things and developments and wonder why things turn out the way they do. We have so much expectations from life and work very hard to accomplish our goals and many times we end up frustrated and wonder if life is fair to us after all.
Ladies and gentlemen, life can be tough and rough not just because of what is happening all around but also a consequence of not having a clear understanding of the realities of life itself. A nation is not just a geographical expression, it's about a people. When everyone clamours for change and improvement but as individuals we prefer to remain the same then we would hardly see or experience any great change or improvement. The reality in life is this, things never change if the people don't change.
Every negative experience we have as a nation is an outcome and consequence of how people are and what people are doing. Bad things don't just happen, people do these bad things.
A Potential is having or showing the capacity to develop into something in the future. I want you to take a good look at yourself this morning, just think of you and consider how far you have grown and developed over the years. Remember, if you can, the cute and lovely you as a kid of five years old, how you used to jump and play and run around the whole place and get excited and attracted to so many kiddie stuff like toys, cartoon movies and just playing and having fun with other little kids your age.
Then with time you evolved, became older and more mature. You became a teenager and other things began to interest you, began to attract you and occupy you. You also changed in appearance. You became bigger, more masculine or feminine in appearance, your body changed and your adulthood began to emerge.Then at last you became a full grown adult. And of course, teenage stuff was no longer that exciting or attractive; your thinking, priorities, interest, activities and perspectives in life changed considerably, and you began to behave differently from when you were a teenager – from when you were a child.
A basic requirement for success in any endeavour in this life is to have a vision. Before embarking on a task or project you must first determine exactly what you want at the end of the day.
Now this vision is not what your eyes can see, it's actually what your mind can see. Physical vision is only capable of seeing what already exists, but your mind vision, that is your mindsight has the capacity to see what can happen in your future.
Now your mindsight is more powerful than your physical eye sight because there is not as much power in your eyesight to change your future experience as you have in your mindsight.
Though what you see with your physical eyes is important as it helps to inspire dreams and ideas about what you want in life, what the eyes of your mind can see however, is actually the production of what your physical eyes enabled you to capture and picture which is very useful to your future.
If you have very clear physical vision but lack internal vision you can hardly do well in life. If you lack effective mindsight you naturally become a victim of trends and developments in life. You can't take charge of your life or influence your tomorrow if you lack the capacity to use your inner vision effectively.
Those that will be in charge tomorrow are those who already today can see with their inner eyes what they want in their physical lives in the next one to two to five or ten or even twenty five years.
It's for me disgraceful and somewhat upsetting the back to back breaking news about so many Nigerians whom over the years have acquired great wealth through theft.
Many very rich Nigerians today have stolen from our common wealth and very many more have stolen from their employers and converted or diverted monies belonging to their employer companies and the nation to their own private pockets and accounts.
Well, the attention may mostly be on the billions in naira and millions in pounds and dollars belonging to all of us but illegally taken over by those with access to these funds and stashed away in their various accounts all over the globe or used to acquire very costly properties and assets all over the world.
But are we really taking note of non-public officials; I mean everyday employees in different companies stealing regularly from their companies? These are people working in various private establishments who have devised crooked means and schemes to successfully steal from their employers.
We see many people in paid employment today with unbelievable bank balances, owning very expensive assets and properties and enjoying a lifestyle their ten years salary combined cannot deliver.
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