YOUR DRESS SENSE...
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Fri, 28 August, 2015 12:30:19 PM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 972.
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While working in an office environment it's crucial to meet the dress code. After all, the way colleagues and clients view you can help make or break your professional reputation. Dressing for work – if you don't have a uniform – can often seem like a tedious and difficult chore, especially when performed five days a week. However, such an irksome routine of getting dressed in the morning can easily be mastered by following these 7 tips.

1. Be prepared Planning your outfits the night before can help you avoid looking like you got dressed in the dark. Plus, you can use the extra minutes in the morning to catch up on some sleep.

2. Invest in an iron If you plan on being taken seriously by your colleagues then the first step is to take your own appearance very seriously. The way you dress yourself each morning portrays your attitude to work and life. If your creased and crumpled shirt is telling your boss that you couldn't care less if you got that promotion or not, then why on earth would they give it to you?

 

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - WISDOM CALLS.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Fri, 28 August, 2015 10:09:34 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1199.
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The reason many of us go to school today is to acquire knowledge in a chosen field of practice. We want to learn about a profession, a practice, a skill or occupation so that we can eventually become practitioners.

We simply think the basic key to generating regular income and the definition of a successful life these days is to go to school, learn stuff, finish with good grades, look for an employer, get employed, earn a salary, pay bills, meet needs, enjoy regular promotion, get to the peak of our career, retire when we're of age, live off retirement benefits and ‘put aways', or start a small business, get old and die. Hmm

Is that all, really is that why we exist? Is that the whole essence of our long lives? Is that the reason for our intelligence, creativity, cognitive powers and soundness of mind? To just learn something, practice what's been learnt for years, support ourselves with regular income till death? I don't think so.

Dear friend, I'm convinced there's more to you and your life quality than this basic life story. I'm convinced your life, your mind, your potentials has more to offer this world - has more to offer mankind than you, just earning enough to pay your bills enjoy your life all through your time.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - UNFREEZE YOUR MIND.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Thu, 27 August, 2015 08:48:47 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1782.
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The most powerful force on earth is the mind of mankind. Everything on earth is under the sway of mankind. The past was shaped based on the thinking of mankind, the present unfolds based on the thinking of mankind and the future is created based on the thinking of mankind.

Culture, tradition, politics,  governance, economy, business, discretion, beliefs, education, philosophy, imagination, creativity, invention, perception, persuasion and dreams have enhanced, developed, redesigned, reordered and even complicated our world and lifestyle as mankind.

Everything you see; the good, the bad, the awesome, the beautiful, the horrific, the appalling and the ugly all have their origin in the mind of mankind.

All visible things created by man, and invisible things utilised by mankind today came to be because somebody thought about it.

 

YOUR SIGNATURE CAN GET YOU IN TROUBLE..
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Wed, 26 August, 2015 04:26:00 PM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1390.
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Reading is not the same as comprehension. Looking is not the same as seeing. Hearing is not the same as understanding. Reading, looking and hearing are all superficial. They are not deep enough. You can do all those three things without getting the import and meaning of what you are considering.

Just because you can read a legal document in English does not mean you understand all of its legal intentions and implications.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - YOUR SEED NATURE.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Wed, 26 August, 2015 08:48:10 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1950.
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I'm convinced many of us today, irrespective of our status and experiences in life still believe there is something great about us. We believe we have required potentials and possibilities to become great, become significant and valuable in life.

We may have been through very difficult situations, experienced very disappointing circumstances; setbacks, betrayal, failures and losses; in spite of all,  somewhere in our hearts, we just know and believe one day, the greatness we believe we carry will eventually manifest.

Little wonder, many who are completely lost today on how to manifest or connect with greatness have had to look on to divine intervention, hence they chase after spiritual consultants to help them discover their place and opportunities for breakthrough and prosperity.

Many of us believe in a better tomorrow; we see a future better than our today, but somehow we're not just sure how and when it will manifest, we are confused and quite anxious.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - MASTER YOUR CRAFT.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Tue, 25 August, 2015 08:55:39 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 2044.
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I believe everyone at least wants to be comfortable in life. You want to be able to pay all your bills without stress, afford things you really like and attend to financial emergencies when they occur. We all need money, money is important.

Many today are working hard for money, many are working under very unfair circumstances and terrible conditions but stick in there, because they need the money to survive.

I know several people working hard on their jobs, running around from dawn to dusk in labour and at the end of the day, their wages still can't cover their monthly expenses, much less savings and an eventual financial freedom.

Many people have their lives trapped in the rat race; running for survival, earning a living and not living their lives. The need for financial sufficiency is so crucial they are willing to make serious sacrifices to be just over broke.

These people live perpetually in fear; the fear of losing their jobs, the fear of unexpected expenses; the fear of how to pay bills and most importantly the fear of what the future holds.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - FIGHTING YOUR FEARS.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Mon, 24 August, 2015 10:03:48 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1825.
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What is fear? Fear is an unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of hurt, danger or pain.

Hmmm, fear is an emotion, fear is an emotion. How exactly do emotions come about? Your emotions - that is the way you feel about something is a product of your mind-set and your memory.

The way you see a matter, the way you see a person, the way you see a situation, your interpretation of anything; how you think it should be and how you think it could be can actually trigger off all sorts of emotions, including fear. Your various emotions is a product of your judgements.

Dear friend no human is born with any form of emotion including fear. Emotions are produced based on expectations, perceptions and mind sets and these are a function of your judgement.

Every baby was taught judgement by its environment, experience and those who raised it. Some times when a toddler keeps attempting to touch a lantern or candle for instance, at times the care giver may allow that baby touch it and hurt, and from that experience the baby would learn to be afraid of fire. Dear friend, fear is learnt.

What we go through; the good, the bad, the ugly and the nasty shape our judgements of every matter based on how we feel during and after the experience.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - REAL MATURITY.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Fri, 21 August, 2015 09:32:06 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 2525.
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I again ran into a close associate last week leaving a hospital close to my office. He had just been treated for high blood pressure; the third of such friend in just one week. Young guys in their late thirties and early forties already on permanent medication for blood pressure. It's not a good sign; it's definitely not a good sign. The pressure is really, really much. Professing we have no issues or pressure in Nigeria is living in obvious denial. Survival is really tough and making ends meet is indeed a daunting task. High cost of living, dwindling purchasing power, lack of essential infrastructure, insecurity, unemployment, cost of capital, energy, mobility, communication and education is extremely stretching and for the tough ones, there is no choice but to manage and if possible rise above the situation through legitimate means.

These negative living dynamics, inconsistencies, instability, disappointments, betrayals, cheating, abuse and impunity consistently harass and torment our sensibilities hence; we're always worried, angry and cranky. By default we are constantly at our wits-end so, upsets and little disappointments or unpleasant developments trigger off our anger and we display it in unhealthy and dangerous manners. Also the steady flow of bad news regarding our politics, government, religious leaders, sports, social life, insecurity, terrorism also compound this state of worry and deep concern - causing high blood pressure.

 

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - THE FACT BEHIND THE FIGURES.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Thu, 20 August, 2015 09:46:44 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1705.
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The first time we met was about four years ago. It was at a seminar organised by a professional colleague and he had invited me to speak. Tosan, a participant was quite fascinated and inspired by my delivery that as soon as I was done speaking she walked up to me and booked an appointment for a counselling session.

Tosan was young, naive, innocent – a rookie; yet passionate and committed to her work as a sales person for one of the popular financial institutions in Nigeria; bankers call them marketers. She was then serving as a youth corp. and was about to conclude her service year at this financial establishment. According to what she told me then, she was very interested in working for this bank and she'd done everything within her power – performance wise; to ensure this dream materialised.

She had learnt the culture, behaviour, processes and skills the sector and her institution entailed and she was already delivering superior numbers higher than many other marketers in her branch. She loved banking. She did very much. I smiled and encouraged her to pursue her career passion and there was no stopping for her if she would remain focused and persistent.

Lately I walked into one of the branches of this bank and there she was in the hall dishing out orders and instructions to other members of staff. She had changed so much. Bigger, more matured in appearance and dressing, she now really had the big girl looks.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - WHAT'S YOUR WORTH?.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Wed, 19 August, 2015 10:33:00 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1632.
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Many of us keep making attempts daily at success. We keep making decisions, choices and effort at different things; hoping at the end of the day would deliver for us our expectations in terms of safety, security, surplus, comfort and happiness. Most of us work hard daily for a good life; we want a good life, we want to be happy in life.

For years we learnt from people, situations and our own experiences different lessons that today inform, guide, control and coordinate our various attempts in life.

Some attempts delivered good results, some fair results and some others, disappointing results.

Many of us are daily living our lives in fear and uncertainty about what tomorrow holds and what the future has to offer. We hope and pray that one day, these fears would be gone as we would eventually attain that level and achieve that dream that would set us free from this life of struggle, insufficiency and insecurity.

Many are tired of being broke, tired of being stressed, tired of being disrespected, tired of embarrassment, tired of subjugation and injustice. Many today believe with a lot of money comes freedom. Many believe they would earn respect and freedom when they have enough money. Many believe they would enjoy a high level of freedom if they need not depend on anyone for financial support or help.

 

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - ARE YOU EDUCATED?.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Tue, 18 August, 2015 09:09:09 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 2439.
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Education, education, education, over and over again everywhere you turn the advocacy for education is strong especially in developing nations like ours. Different global institutions and humanitarian movements have prioritised education as one of the primary and compulsory requirement for Africans as a pre requisite to seeing the expected and much anticipated development of the continent – Africa; the next frontier.

In Nigeria, education is daily rated as a primary and essential need for every young citizen; so rife and popular is this advocacy to the end that the word illiterate; which is a term used to describe a non-educated person is considered an insult. Education is considered the key to success in Nigeria.

Lately I've been looking and watching; paying attention to the implication of what we popularly call education and I discovered many Nigerians are literate but not educated.

Over the years, there has been this confusion and mix up between being literate and being educated. Education is not just the ability to read and write, that is

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - CHALLENGE YOUR TRADITION.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Mon, 17 August, 2015 09:31:25 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 2078.
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I want us to talk this morning, really let's talk.  And I want us to be open and very sincere; not taking things personal, not playing the blame game or making excuses. Let's try today to beam the searchlight on ourselves; questioning our ways, routine, traditions and behaviours.

I do not have a doubt that everyone wants a good life. We all want to be comfortable and happy. We want to live a struggle free life, we all want to be free to do what will make us happy, achieve our dreams and fulfil our purpose.

We love our families; our parents, spouses, children and sincerely wish we could give them the best. We want to give the best in accommodation and home, the best in clothing; we don't want to wear worn clothes or our kids wearing worn clothes, forcing them wear clothes that no longer fit, or wearing the same outfit to every party and occasion. We want our spouses dressing really well, looking really good and attractive. We want the peace and comfort and respect that comes with driving brand new cars; being confident your car will not suddenly break down or refuse to start and you'll need a push especially in seasons of rainfall and flood in heavy traffic.

Yes, you want the peace of mind that comes with having a very good balance in your bank account. You want to be debt free, you don't want to keep borrowing and pleading with a landlord, a school teacher or school owner or even with a doctor on matters of bills.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - SELF CONFIDENCE.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Fri, 14 August, 2015 09:58:01 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 2263.
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As a coach, the more I speak, counsel and advise people, the more I realise everyone's got great potentials for success. I don't believe anyone is born to fail, or lack, or beg. There is something in us all, something about us all, that can make us all very successful.

I've spoken to so many people and at the start of the conversation they are timid, intimidated and don't think there's anything good in them, but after a while, after asking some right questions, they begin to see themselves differently, they gradually become excited, happier, motivated and they eventually leave elated, with renewed confidence and zeal to go and win. I can't recall any experience where anyone left still depressed and low. This made me conclude that our limitations and can't-do disposition is all in our minds.

I believe we were all born bold, confident and zealous. But the circumstances of our birth and upbringing play a critical role in how we eventually turn out either as bold, confident, charismatic and self-assured. Or fearful, intimidated, panicky and apprehensive. The environment in terms of wealth, affluence, location, exposure, interaction, information and association can either boost or deplete our self-confidence. 

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING: A SENSE OF DESTINY.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Thu, 13 August, 2015 08:19:15 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 2370.
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At times my job can be very difficult on the account of the kind of questions I'm asked, advice people seek, social problems people want me to intervene in and the inconsistency of mankind in thoughts, decisions and the will to do.

When you're purposed to serve in the field of humanitarian services and you're passionate about the wellbeing, success and prosperity of mankind in general, it can be frustrating to see how easy it is for many people to do so well and succeed in life but they're still held back by their thinking, mind-set and judgements.

The reason for the crisis, pain and struggle for many people in life is exclusively a thinking and mind-set problem.

Educated, exposed, intelligent, hardworking and kind people; suffering so much and achieving so little in this life simply because they have a mind-set challenge.

ROMANCE IN THE WORKPLACE: THE GOOD, THE BAD AND THE UGLY..
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Wed, 12 August, 2015 11:19:53 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1682.
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A look at the pros and cons of an office romance

Ahh, Monday morning; that annoying time to get up early, schlep into the office and get back to the stresses of the job. Who looks forward to that? An office romance may make Monday mornings easier and more fun. But is adding a bit of excitement to your work life worth the risk?

Romance in the Workplace – The Good

These days, people spend the bulk of their time at work, which makes the temptation to start an office romance strong. After all, these are the people you see every day. You have a lot in common with them. When you spend this much time with someone, you get to know them on an intimate, day-to-day level. You get a feel for their intelligence, personality and ethic and this can create a type of chemistry that could lead to something more.

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