TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - COPING WITH SEPARATION (2).
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Mon, 16 January, 2017 03:52:01 PM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1849.
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Separation from people, situation, experiences and levels in life is natural whether you like it or you don't. If you don't walk away from people they will  eventually walk away from you. Even if you all swear to stick together for life, I assure you time, chance and situations will separate all of you. If you don't leave an employment, you will eventually be asked to leave one day, if you don't walk away from a group, they may eventually disconnect from you; even ultimately in life your own children will separate from you as adults to form their own homes.

Separation is a tough but natural challenge in life. Ignoring the reality or wishing it away therefore is not the wisest approach. What we all must do, is master the coping mechanism when eventually we have to separate from people, places, situations, levels and conditions.

Many times we envision separation in its extreme, like when it has to do with a divorce or even death. But there are some mild kind of separations that also hurt and can affect us even if it isn't that grievous.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - COPING WITH SEPARATION.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Fri, 13 January, 2017 09:55:35 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 2528.
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As human beings we are emotional by nature. We get passionately attached to people, things, experiences, a condition and a style of living. When we get so attached, it becomes very difficult letting go even when it becomes absolutely necessary.

You see, our lives as humans is designed to be progressive, we ought to keep moving on from one level to another, from one phase to another, from one season to another and from one level of success to the next.

We experience transformation daily: physically, mentally, emotionally and psychologically. We naturally transform from being children to becoming adults physically. This transformation is what we call physical maturity.

Maturity is also the ability to grow the person within. It is emotional and psychological development. This maturity shows when we're able to cope with tough situations, manage crisis or painful experiences without destructive reactions from us. A matured person is that one with the capacity to control and effectively manage his emotions.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - WHEN YOU GROW (2).
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Thu, 12 January, 2017 10:39:11 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 3758.
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I have tried to study life and people and as a student of history, I’ve come to know there is no point in time when mankind in any nation, city or community was absolutely free from trouble, challenges, setbacks, crisis or tragedy. The story of mankind is essentially that of survival and in truth, most of the survivors are the strong ones and some few lucky ones.

The never-say-die spirit in the mature ones of old, who survived very difficult times like wars, and famines, and economic depressions and outbreaks of diseases and political suppressions is the reason we have a world or nation we can call our own today.

Ladies and gentlemen, crying, lamenting, cursing and analysing our daily challenges in life and as citizens today may not really be of great personal benefit if we refuse to rise up to address our personal weaknesses, limitations and inhibitions. We need to arise and survive as strong men and women in this season. Yes, we can speak out against anything we find inappropriate in our society but to assume our lives will automatically become better simply because the economy has improved without personally lifting a finger to help yourself is a pipe dream.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - WHEN YOU GROW.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Wed, 11 January, 2017 02:46:08 PM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 3219.
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Wikipedia describes Growth as a positive change in size, and/or maturation, often over a period of time. Growth can occur as a stage of maturation or a process toward fullness or fulfilment.

Every living organism is expected to grow in size or maturation for them to manifest certain traits or capacities and in return deserve or earn some entitlements.

Dear friend, you may not be too happy about your progress and accomplishments thus far in life. You may consider your age today and conclude there are some things you ought to have owned, achieved or accomplished but these things still appear to be very far away from you.

You see, the basic thinking many of us hold about growth is mostly age related, not maturity. We just believe and assume there are some certain things we are entitled to or should earn because we're old enough. Unfortunately, life doesn't serve that way.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - STRETCH OUT!
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Tue, 10 January, 2017 10:19:08 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 2194.
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A rubber band never fulfils its purpose until it is stretched. Everyone loves to be comfortable. We hardly want to be disturbed, inconvenienced or moved. Once we become comfortable with a circumstance, process, situation or order we don't want to change. We want to remain like that because it's really easy to remain on the same spot.

The key drivers that would compel most employees to desire promotion and change in level are financial reward, power and control. Imagine a set up where hierarchy is not in place and the income is not determined by the level of responsibility, I assure you; no one would take on any new task or responsibility. If there's no benefit tied to any position in cash or power or control, I don't see anyone fascinated about taking up such roles.

For example why would I want to take on the role of a supervisor in a team if I won't get additional income and won't be in charge of the team or anybody? The additional responsibility as a supervisor then becomes a stress factor and not a promotion.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - GOOD ENOUGH REASON.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Mon, 09 January, 2017 01:02:32 PM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 4081.
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Many of us live very busy lives. We are actually very busy. We have so much to do that a day appears not to be enough. From dawn to dusk we are up and about doing one thing or the other, chasing one thing or the other. We can be busy with formal and serious affairs and we can also be busy at pleasurable and entertaining matters. It doesn't really matter which one of both is keeping us occupied, we are just a crew of busy people. It'll amaze you how someone can labour and work tirelessly towards organising a party and this same person will stay awake all night preparing for exams or a presentation or project at work. For pleasure, leisure, adventure or progress in life, most of us are very busy.

The delusion of a busy life is the assumption or suggestion that you're working very hard in life, so you should automatically have something to show for it. Unfortunately, being busy is not the same as being productive so you can be very busy and still have nothing much to show. It's possible to be busy but still broke, backward and regressive.

This confusion is the reason many become paranoid and begin to believe they have spiritual problems hence consult spiritualists to help them tackle the spirit of backwardness and the spirit of the snail. The reality is, many are busy, hardworking and diligent but not productive. Unfortunately, life does not truly reward hard work, life pays only for productivity. It's what is produced - the product, that money is exchanged for, not the labour or activity.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - FEAR THE RIGHT THINGS.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Thu, 05 January, 2017 10:27:12 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 3872.
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Yes, I feel it, I sense it. It's very common these days. Many people are afraid. In the attempt to discuss or share views on different subject matters, you'd here it come up subtly or strongly – the very many things people fear these days.

Just look into the eyes, you'll see it there; the look of insecurity, tension, anxiety and self-doubt as you go about interacting with your everyday people.

You look at faces around, you see the scowl, the glare, the frown and different expressions revealing the dreads, fears and tension locked up within.

Dear friend, are you afraid? Every now and again you recall the issue, the problem and situation bringing about the fear and instantly your smile turns awkward, your temporary happiness evaporates, you stiffen, your face tightens up and that mild sensation crawls up your skin – that wave sweeps across your soul. That is fear.

Fear; what an emotion. Fear is a chain reaction that starts with fearful stimulus and ends with the release of chemicals that causes a racing heart, fast breathing and energised muscles. Fear produces a fight or flight response.

Fear is unconsciously created in your brain but strongly informed by your personal interpretation of events and possible outcomes.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - GET UNDERSTANDING
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Wed, 04 January, 2017 10:22:44 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 3059.
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Many of us today are not very happy or confident in life as perhaps we do not understand life well enough. We are aware of some things that have happened and some things that could happen but we hardly understand or seek to take note or decipher why they happened.

The world is set in a particular order. The world is about people, territories, events and purpose. Living things play a critical role in the unfolding of events strongly supported by non-living things. The non-living is made for the living to thrive and excel.

The inorganic constitute the materials and resources provided by the creator for mankind to utilise and make this world and living an awesome, remarkable, beautiful and excellent experience.

You see, the earth was created and finished by God but not the world. The earth is a territory, but the world is a system operating on territory earth. God the maker created and finished the earth. But He created a pattern for the world sustaining it through various laws and handed the concept to mankind to build and complete. God made the earth but gave man the charge to create a beautiful world on the earth He made. The earth is a territory; a very rich place. But the world is a system of lifestyle, livelihood, innovation, creativity, development, administration and social structure.

The natural resources to make the world great He buried some under the earth, He placed some on the surface of the earth and the rest in the atmosphere. But the creative potential required to build a great world with the materials provided, God deposited in every human being including you.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - PURPOSEFUL ADVENTURE.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Thu, 22 December, 2016 11:58:54 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 4305.
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Many today have no deliberate grip or control over their lives. Many don't even understand the “how” of being in charge of their own lives. Many have never experienced a season when they are absolutely in charge of themselves. Many more have given up the possibility of being in charge of their own decisions, directions and destination in life.

Dear friend, your life is expressed and measured based on time. As the clock keeps ticking, your life keeps running and gradually ebbing away.

To be in charge of your life, is to be in charge of your time. To be in charge of your time is having the power to determine and chose what you do at every point in time in your life.

A situation where no one but you determines what you want to do with every day and every hour is really being in charge and control of your life.

As a child or a teenager when you still needed to be taught and guided by your parents and/or caregivers, yes its appropriate you submit to them even when you disagree with some of their rules and instructions, but immediately you attain adulthood, wherein you can now make your decisions and choices, your number one struggle should be to liberate yourself from every other force or system that has the power to limit you, restrict you, contain you and control you.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - REAL RESPECT.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Wed, 21 December, 2016 10:59:40 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 3527.
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In a materialistic society like ours, the way you appear, what you wear, how you carry yourself and how people choose to see you is how they'll treat you either good or bad.

As typical Nigerians, on first encounter with people, we tend to judge by the person's immediate appearance. Even after we become a bit familiar with that person, we rate the person more by possessions, positions and power rather than intelligence, character or good nature.

If subsequently we sense the person doesn't have much materially, isn't highly placed or not so famous or influential, we lose appreciation and basic respect for such a one. In a situation when we feel we have a higher level of power, possession and prosperity than such a one, we automatically assume a dominant role in the relationship and in fact demand respect from such a person even if the person is older or more advanced in life.

Sadly as Nigerians, money and material possessions are the basic factors we use to determine who we choose to respect and the degree of respect we accord. Power and influence are the next factors we use in matters of honour and respect. That, unfortunately is how our society rolls. This is my submission.

This being the nature of our society, many of us unfortunately believe the only way we can truly earn the respect of others is through material possession and financial surplus. We hence, hanker after money and material things by all means based on our craving for respect and popularity. We want respect so we opt to buy this respect from others.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - THE PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Tue, 20 December, 2016 08:32:27 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 3480.
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No one and nothing shapes your thinking and sets your mind set as strongly as the people around you.

For so many of us, our lives today is a product of societal influence. We are formed according to the information passed to us by the people in our lives and around us. They formed our person and set our mind-sets.

Our knowledge, opinion, views, perspectives, belief systems and philosophies are influenced and daily shaped by the people around us.

I've been privileged to have lived and worked in many parts of the country. In the north, the east, the west and the southern part of Nigeria; and believe me our cultures, traditions, behaviours, priorities, perspectives and views vary. This variations are strongly traceable to our different history, cultures, traditions, religion and superstitions. From generation to generation it has been passed on and it continues - which is quite interesting to see the colourful and beautiful blend of different people and cultures as one.

Many of us are formed and set in our ways on the account of the people who raised us. Now, the tricky part of this lies with the kind of influence those who were around you had, and those around you are having - how they treated you and are probably still treating you.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - THE MAZE OF LIFE.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Mon, 19 December, 2016 09:25:13 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 2618.
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A major human limitation is the inability to correctly predict the future. No man can correctly tell you what will happen to you within the next hour. Mankind in the desperation to know and control tomorrow has in fact made consultations with divinity and mysticism even with that, control isn't guaranteed. In this life, no one knows tomorrow, no one can absolutely manipulate tomorrow.

Our dreams, ambition and aspirations for the future are all a matter of hope, not certainty. So we work, plan, strategize and pray hoping our expectations from the future shall be met, at times things turn out in our favour but at other times things turn out different.

Not knowing tomorrow is a critical reason for mankind's dependence and relying on God. We pray to God to bring to pass all our hopes and aspirations, we pray our dreams come true, we wish for a bright, fulfilling and rewarding future. We all want a happier tomorrow than today, incidentally the power of tomorrow does not lie with us.

As impossible as it is to tell accurately and with precision the details of how your tomorrow will unfold, and as the control of your future is beyond you as mere human, there are however, some rules, some principles, some ordinances and habits that can to a degree help influence and shape the quality of your future and make your future almost predictable.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - SELF CONFIDENCE.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Fri, 16 December, 2016 11:57:59 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 2714.
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As a career coach, the more I speak, counsel and advise people, the more I realise everyone’s got great potentials for success. I don’t believe anyone is born to fail, or lack, or beg. There is something in us all, something about us all, that can make us all very successful.

I’ve spoken to so many people and at the start of the conversation they are timid, intimidated and don’t think there’s anything good in them, but after a while, after asking some right questions, they begin to see themselves differently, they gradually become excited, happier, motivated and they eventually leave elated, with renewed confidence and zeal to go and win. I can’t recall any experience where anyone left still depressed and low. This made me conclude that our limitations and can’t-do disposition is all in our minds.

I believe we were all born bold, confident and zealous. But the circumstances of our birth and upbringing play a critical role in how we eventually turn out either as bold, confident, charismatic and self- assured Or fearful, intimidated, panicky and apprehensive.

The environment in terms of wealth, affluence, location, exposure, interaction, information and association can either boost or deplete our self-confidence.

Our care givers including parents, teachers, religious leaders, siblings, friends and associates can also strengthen or kill our confidence.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - COMPETE FOR THE FUTURE.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Thu, 15 December, 2016 09:53:38 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 2297.
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One subject many of us are reluctant to discuss is what our future holds. We naturally love to bask in the experiences of today, we want to take pleasure in today and do all what will make gratifying the activities of our today. Many are hardly mindful of the future, anytime someone or something raises the question or reminder about the future, we mentally just wish to switch off.

Perhaps, we don't really like discussing the future because we are anxious about what it portends. We are uneasy about uncertainties, unwanted outcomes and disappointing eventualities so, we'd rather not think or talk about it. It's scary.

Ladies and gentlemen, the avoidance of tomorrow as a matter to ponder in your mind does not nullify its certainty. Being sceptical in planning and fortifying your future wouldn't push it further away from you. Wisdom hence, is that decision to brace up in courage and critically think about your future and how you can make it superior to your present.

Many of us like to subscribe to philosophies that suggests we are powerless against tomorrow. We like it when it's said that no one knows tomorrow and no one can do anything about the future. We eagerly embrace such theories as it sits well within our wish zone.  But the truth is, mankind to a large extent shapes the future. Our collective activities as humans determine the consequences and possibilities of the future. What I do, what you do, what we all do actually shapes the future to a very large extent.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - YOUR BLIND SPOT
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On Wed, 14 December, 2016 09:06:56 AM, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 3451.
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Too many of us today desire improvement and success in some or many areas of our lives including our careers and businesses. We desire improvement and changes. We have expectations about how certain things should be and how life should treat us. We also have expectations of reward, appreciation and profiting in many areas of our lives, unfortunately we are not getting these things we desire.

In many areas of our human endeavour especially relationships, we desire love, care, attention, appreciation, promotion, attention and honour from the people around and in our lives.

We are designed in certain ways, believe in certain things and see life in certain ways, based on these views and perspectives, we have expectations. When unfortunately, these expectations are not met, we become unhappy and discouraged, sometimes we become bitter and disgruntled and may even begin to blame people or even God for our situations.

Why do some people succeed at what we fail at? Why are some people better than us at certain things? Why are some people more popular and loved than we are? Why are some people accepted where we were rejected? Why are some people richer than we are? Why do some people get frequently promoted and we are not? Why are some prominent, popular and appreciated within your company and no one really reckons with you? Why has your subordinate been promoted over you to become a boss? Why do we lose friends, colleagues and loved ones to other people? Why are we lonely at times?

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