TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - THE WHYS IN OUR LIVES.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 30, June 2015 08:56:20, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 693.
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Many of us today are living very confused lives. We live a life without purpose, vision, clarity or direction. We live a life of distraction, inconsistencies, complexities and frustration.

We are keen on making good success of our lives, but absolutely disorganised and chaotic in our approach to success.

After struggling mentally and psychologically to find answers and we can't, we let go of all the lofty dreams and high expectations and eventually settle for what we already have.

I'm sure left to many of us, we would want better houses, better cars, better clothing, better lifestyles and more money, if we know exactly how to acquire all these, we would indeed give it a shot, but we do not know how to go about acquiring all these without risking what we already have, hence we are scared

Many aren't making effort or venturing into greater endeavours due to uncertainties.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - THE QUALITY OF YOUR DAY.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 29, June 2015 12:02:22, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 908.
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It's a common and popular prayer, at all times at various occasions, especially during birthdays, the prayer is always about long life and prosperity. I wish you long life and prosperity.

A long life is something we desire, cherish and appreciate. We all want to live long and fulfil the number of our days. We want to see our children's children, no one wants to die prematurely; long life is a blessing everyone prays for.

As much as we pray for long life and know it can only be handed and permitted by our creator, in my opinion, many hardly show any true appreciation for each day with the consciousness of it being a blessing or a privilege.

Many do not treat each day as a gift, we sleep; we wake up and just go about our daily activities as though we made the day happen.

We are daily overwhelmed by the various activities we have lined up for each day and we just keep going; all with the aim of securing, preserving and enjoying all we have even as we try to accumulate more.

 

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - YOUR MIND OVER THE MATTER.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 26, June 2015 08:47:56, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1722.
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Tricia was all by herself at home that Friday evening. She was bored, lonely and irritated. She arrived at Lagos that morning from Asaba to come spend the weekend with her fiancé Johnson in Lagos.

They hadn't seen each other since their introduction three weeks earlier and as the wedding plan was becoming more intense it was quite imperative she came to Lagos to dot the “Is” and cross the “Ts” on their wedding plans; the agreement was for the ceremony to hold by the end of the year.

Tricia, age 27 worked as a banker at Asaba delta state. She studied Banking and Finance at Uniport and after her service year two years ago secured employment with one of the leading banks in Nigeria.

A very intelligent, focused and hardworking lady; passionate and diligent, she was a lady with high self-esteem who believed so much in herself, her potentials and possibilities. She loved her job and looked ahead towards a very bright future in career.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - MONEY MANAGEMENT.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 25, June 2015 09:05:57, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1536.
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I was reading a material last week and was surprised to read that according to the Insurance Industry Statistics in the US, out of 100 people who start work at age 21, by age 65, 1 will be rich, four would be financially independent, fifteen would have some money put aside and the other 80 would still be working, broke, dependent on pension or dead.

This write up also affirms that most middle aged people today are planning to work into their seventies.  I smiled. If this was the situation in the US, I wonder what the data in Nigeria would reveal.

Very popular in Nigeria today is the ideology to go to school, study hard, graduate, get a job, earn good income and live a good life, or learn a vocation or business, learn the tricks and be hardworking, make a lot of money and enjoy your life.

The popular orientation and advocacy about money in Nigeria today is spending. Nigerians are daily encouraged, motivated and almost coerced to spend any income.

The thinking is, get money and spend it on expensive and ostentatious products and brands to impress or oppress everyone; to show that you have arrived.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - REMAKE YOUR LIFE.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 24, June 2015 08:59:51, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1719.
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Everyone loves a great life. We all want to be successful and great. We want to achieve our dreams, goal and purposes. We don't want to lag behind colleagues and contemporaries in life, we want to be comfortable, secured; relevant and respected. We want a good life, at least everyone I know does, but not everyone is actually experiencing a great life; in fact more people are struggling in life than succeeding.

We are daily inspired, encouraged, motivated and told the naked truth about the need to succeed, we're told the secrets and ways to success, many of us know the secrets and principles by heart, in fact some of us have taught other people one-on-one or in groups about the need and the principles of success, but ironically, we are also struggling in life.

We're struggling with our finances, our relationships, our marriages; our careers our behaviours and other critical aspects of our lives.

We have the answers, we have the knowledge, we see the opportunities and guess what, we have the choice, we know what is right and needful; and we know what is destructive and unnecessary. Yet were unable to do anything about our lives and our situations.

 

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - HOW DO YOU FLOCK?.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 23, June 2015 09:25:52, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1667.
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She was so unhappy, distressed, and confused. She was in trouble, she didn't know what to do. She was full of regret and wished she had sought and taken better counsel. Now the deed is done and she's in a worse jam than anticipated.

This young woman, age 29; beautiful, purposeful with a good job was simply interested in getting married as expected of any lady of her age and status.

Incidentally she had been dating a young man four years older way back from her school days. The relationship was about six years old and they had agreed they would eventually get married.

The challenge however had been this guy's unfaithfulness. Asides this lady he was courting steady, he had on repeated occasions different ladies he had love affairs with on the side, he wasn't a faithful lover and this had brought about many quarrels in their six years relationship.

About four months earlier, this lady according to her, In order to secure her man and the relationship decided to move in with him, thinking it will minimise if not completely stop his escapades and distractions with other women.

 

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - CAN YOU SEE IT?.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 22, June 2015 09:22:21, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1711.
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What do you see? When you take a peek into your future, as a man, a woman, a parent, a husband, an employee, a business owner, as a Nigerian living and working in Nigeria, what can you see?

Are you in your twenties, your thirties, your forties, fifties, are you sixty and above? What can you see in tomorrow?

It is very important for anyone with ambition and the hope for a better tomorrow to have and hold a mental picture of his or her expectations of the future.

Too many of us are very much involved in the present, we devout too much of our attention, thinking and concern to our today. Wake up with our minds filled with the day's activities. We think along the lines of work, relationship, finances, various tasks and people requiring our time for the day.

We are mostly overwhelmed by the will to want to do so much every day, pressured by the need to do all we want to do for the day, hence we hardly pay enough attention to a weightier matter, which is the need to improve and enhance the quality of our tomorrow.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - THE POWER OF CHARACTER.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 19, June 2015 09:46:32, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 2179.
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Rotimi had come under tremendous pressure. He didn't know what to do, he was confused, perplexed and if he could, would want to run away.

A hard working young man, age 31, works as procurement manager for a leading manufacturing company in Lagos. This young man from an average background is the only child of his parents.  It took his parents eight years to have him and all efforts to have other kids after him had proven abortive. He is the only child and the most precious subject in the life of his parents.

He was born and raised in Ilorin, his father was a principal at a federal government college and his mother a primary school teacher. They worked very hard to raise him and train him and after becoming a graduate and securing a master's degree five years ago, he secured this job as a buyer and was subsequently promoted to the position of procurement manager.

The company he worked for is a very successful world class multinational with global presence.

Rotimi was in charge of procuring spare parts and lubricants for the factory; a multi-billion naira buying budget and he was directly responsible; he was as it were, in charge!

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - YOUR SUPERIORITY COMPLEX.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 18, June 2015 08:46:37, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1764.
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Many times I feel sorry for so many people who are suffering or struggling and not enjoying any peace or comfort in this life. Many are unhappy, frustrated, discouraged and weary of their lives; tired and unwilling to try new things, different things or consider alternative options in their journeys through life.

Many today have lost hope, their dreams of yester years remain just dreams without the possibilities of realising any of them.

Many today remain subjected to the life of survival, labour and benevolence. Life is hard, goes the thinking, things are difficult goes the believe, it's not easy to succeed goes the conviction. Many today have just given up on life; their dreams and hopes and unfortunately,keep working very hard and desperately to make ends meet and remain alive and well.

Many times when I begin to speak and challenge my audience about their opportunities and possibilities in life, I sometimes hear some make statements like ‘let's face the reality' and they begin to throw up many excuses and what ifs and why so, and It keeps me wondering why it is so difficult for many to know what they call reality is really not the reality and what they think is mere thoughts or wishes or the impossible are really the realities.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - REMEMBER THE TIME.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 17, June 2015 09:19:33, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1863.
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I was visiting and in conversation with my younger brother who runs a successful company in Lagos and we got talking about the challenges of managing the most difficult resource in business; the human resource.

Especially in Nigeria, getting people to do what they're paid to do can be so difficult. Most business owners and managers invest more time than necessary, trying to get their employees to just do their jobs.

Many employees today are really not interested in work, they're only interested in employment. They want a job all for the money not because they're really interested in supporting the growth and development of the establishment.

Many are not excited or passionate about what they do, they endure working hours every day and can't wait for closing hours. They don't feel guilty if they've not done anything worthwhile all day long, and don't feel bad collecting a salary for doing nothing tangible all through the month.

They carry a mind-set of an entitlement to salary whether they work or not as long as they are in the employment of the organisation for that month.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - GIVE UP TO GET UP.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 16, June 2015 09:14:29, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1853.
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Life generally is about trade-offs. For anything you want, you must be willing to sacrifice for it. There is nothing really free I tell you.

Many today want better quality of life, more income, more time, better living standards, health, peace, happiness, security, friendship and quality relationships. These are all good things that of course would bring satisfaction and fulfilment. But truth is they all come with a price tag.

You see, you can't have it all without giving up something; you can't eat your cake and have it. You must be willing to give up something to get something. That's the way life is.

Look at your life right now, what do you really want? What is that thing you'll get that would really make you happy and satisfied?

You see, it's important we correctly define what we actually want. If we are not very clear on what we want, we may end up chasing the wrong thing and becoming frustrated if eventually that thing does not bring the joy and satisfaction desired.

 

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - BEFORE YOU JUDGE.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 15, June 2015 09:06:17, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1515.
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The imperfection in the world generally is a reflection and a consequence of our imperfection as mankind.

Each one of us keep struggling with habits, behaviours and attitudes we do not like but exhibit every now and again.

We have weaknesses; tendencies and behaviours with negative impacts and repercussion on us and our world. Too many times we've sworn never to act that way again but before we know it, we're back doing that which we have sworn never to do again.

Even while at it, we know it's wrong but the will power to stop ourselves isn't always there, we go ahead, do the wrong with our eyes wide open, and after we are done, we are full of remorse, regret, guilt and at times shame.

We say to ourselves, we would not indulge any longer, we get even religious about it and ask God to help us, but after a little while, we're back there, doing that which we do not want to do.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - BE THE MAN.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 12, June 2015 08:32:46, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 2038.
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I do not think so, no I don't think so. Many are the very strong views and advocacies to challenge the norm and the statuesque and question why things must remain the way they are.

People all around the world today are strongly questioning traditions and policies which have existed and have been the tradition for so very many years.

I think we are in the season of mental revolution – revolution of the mind which makes us want to ask questions about certain norms and re-check the efficacy of some traditions.

Today many structures, institutions and social orders are been questioned and reviewed based on fresh arguments and schools of thought. Many are asking why things should be in certain ways and not in other ways, institutions including the polity, governance; education, social welfare, industry, religion and even the family keep going through several reviews as we all keep searching for better ways of making things work in life.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - CHALLENGE YOUR TRADITION.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 11, June 2015 09:46:06, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1541.
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I want us to talk this morning, really let's talk.  And I want us to be open and very sincere; not taking things personal, not playing the blame game or making excuses. Let's try today to beam the searchlight on ourselves; questioning our ways, routine, traditions and behaviours.

I do not have a doubt that everyone wants a good life. We all want to be comfortable and happy. We want to live a struggle free life, we all want to be free to do what will make us happy, achieve our dreams and fulfil our purpose.

We love our families; our parents, spouses, children and sincerely wish we could give them the best. We want to give the best in accommodation and home, the best in clothing; we don't want to wear worn clothes or our kids wearing worn clothes, forcing them wear clothes that no longer fit, or wearing the same outfit to every party and occasion. 

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By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 10, June 2015 12:26:03, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 861.
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