TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - BEHIND AN ABLE MAN.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 31, July 2015 08:25:18, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1025.
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Of course daily, we all work and plan to become successful in life. We do not work without an expectation or anticipation of good returns and reward. We are naturally inclined to pay very good attention to our lives and living standards and secure ways and means of overcoming obstacles and challenges in order to become what we dream and hope to be.

We see our journeys through life from the perspective of good success, accomplishment and fulfilment. No one plans to fail; everyone plans and hopes for success in life.

We keep thinking and considering the various spheres of our lives, our personal being; friendships, relationships, family life, work-life, social life, our finances and our consistent pursuit of relevance, authority and great influence. We all want to be loved, respected, acknowledged and celebrated.

We keep following the trends; what's new and good in life, we love the cars, the houses, the fashion, the vacations, the pleasure, the entertainment, the maximum fun. We want to be happy; successful and great, we hope to accomplish one great feat after another; we want to fulfil our purposes dreams and desires.

Despite all these in mind and great anticipation, life incidentally wouldn't allow anything come cheap and easy, if you want to live a good life you must be willing to pay the price, make the sacrifice and commit to overcoming obstacles, challenges and oppositions.

 

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - RAISE YOUR GAME.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 30, July 2015 18:47:58, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 965.
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The frequency of change and dynamics as currently obtainable in this century is extremely fast and daunting. Before getting adjusted to something new, a better and higher version or degree is out. Take a look around you and you’ll observe it cuts across almost every area of our lives; from science to technology, fashion, music, movies, information, education, sports, discoveries, inventions, constitutions, policies, morals and belief systems.

Check out even your phones, computers, cars, TV sets and the likes; your latest model in a few years, months or even weeks has become an old model. A reigning song or music artiste in a few months is no longer topping the chart.

New movies breaking records on budget, production, directing and performance make recent ones look like child’s play.

In the world of sports; new records, new champions and breath taking performances make previous superstars appear armature. . Even in the news; before you adjust to one breaking news something fresh and probably worse is out! Even the design of buildings and building accessories are changing faster than ever before. Within 4 to 5 years your lovely house is no longer trending in architectural design.

It’s everywhere!

In observing all these, has it occurred to you that these changes are not automatic or automated?

 

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - WORK RELATIONSHIP ETHICS.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 29, July 2015 11:23:15, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 962.
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Brilliant, hardworking, goal getter, committed, passionate and on top of your job, yet the promotion is not coming as it should.

Year in year out other people probably on your level within other teams are rising and moving up the ladder very fast but your case is different. Every year you achieve something greater than the last. Your team head relies on you and believes in your ability and capacity to deliver. He calls on you in emergencies and for information and ways out; you're the first one he calls.

Every other team member respect and value your contribution. They can see how much you know and how hard you work. It's obvious by now you ought to have been promoted after so long yet it's not coming and everyone is indifferent.

You've complained to the relevant people when occasions for review and appraisals came up. They listened to your complaint and promised to do something about it. Yet nothing is being done. You're confused, perplexed and getting discouraged.

Dear friend, may I say this morning that as far as rising within your organisation is concerned; performance on the job may probably not be enough?

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - YOUR TEAM SPIRIT.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 28, July 2015 08:53:00, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 989.
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Nowadays in both public and private set ups, leaders are going through very challenging times in their bid to achieve great results through people. Many managing directors, team directors, departmental heads, team heads, supervisors and unit heads are having a difficult time achieving results, not because they are ignorant, lazy, laidback or clueless but because of the nature or what I call the spirit of their team.

I'm talking about leaders with adequate experience on the job; visionary, passionate, hardworking and dedicated leaders with the dream and wish to deliver phenomenal results, but today made to look bad, lazy, disorganised, incompetent and clueless because of the spirit of the team they lead.

The pressure has always been on the leaders, from their superiors, from the society and even from the subordinates; the pressure is always on the leader. If the team is not doing well, it is the leader, if results are not delivered, it is the leader, if deadlines are not met, it is the leader, if goals aren't accomplished, it is the leader, when the team fails; it is the leader. Today, everything occurring within many social structures especially the bad is blamed on the leader.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - CONTRADICTING EXPECTATION.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 27, July 2015 14:26:56, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1410.
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Dear friends, I do not know how many of you can connect with the experience I'm about to share this morning, but it's something I've been through and many of my friends and associates go through as well.

I've been thinking about it and I presume if I bring it to the fore, we could all become more aware, conscious and mindful so as to enable us strike a realistic balance and not get carried away with unnecessary sentiments and emotions.

It's a clarification of our realities as normal people willing to balance a good life and the means to make ends meet.

I'd share a few examples of what happened to me in the last couple of weeks, my discoveries and lessons; very funny, yet realistic and important. Let's go.

About three weeks ago I was not feeling very well, I had been very busy with work – crazy schedule, crazy deadlines, new business ideas and ventures and too many things and people needing attention and service hence, I didn't make enough time to rest or relax and eventually, I broke down and had to go to the hospital for treatment. I was stressed out.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - ARE YOU COMMITTED?.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 24, July 2015 09:03:25, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1144.
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World class strategies, beautiful plans, lucrative business ideas and personal dreams fail and fall short when commitment is absent.

Millions every day, everywhere think up solutions to personal, corporate and public challenges. Business Strategists see opportunities for growth and profit in various markets. Huge resources are put behind the agenda, everything looking pretty good on paper and even the project starts off on a good note, but somewhere in the process of execution, failure and frustration sets in, to the end that a beautiful plan, a beautiful strategy fails to deliver simply because sustained commitment was absent in execution.

According to the Encarta dictionary, commitment is a responsibility that takes up time and energy. It also requires devotion and dedication.

For you to succeed in life any endeavour either business or career, you must of a necessity disburse the required time and energy, devotion and dedication for success.

 

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - BE AHEAD.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 23, July 2015 09:05:34, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1610.
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In any race it is not he that takes the lead first but he who consistently stays ahead till the end that eventually wins. We all want to win in life, nobody wants to be behind. There is a consistent effort to stay ahead with personal goals and compared to your contemporaries.

Every time it appears you aren't doing as well as your contemporaries in terms of achievements, you are not very happy. On several occasions we have confused this feeling with envy or jealousy, it is not the same. There is nothing wrong with using other peoples’ accomplishments and successes to measure how you are doing. For you to measure your performance in anything, there must be a standard or benchmark and it's natural to feel bad when others are legitimately achieving what you're grappling with. It gingers you to up your game. If you're indifferent to what other people are achieving in life to the end that you are not inspired to do more and strive harder, it amounts to complacency and complacency terminates visions, dreams, and achievements.

The achievements of others should drive and inspire you to do better yourself.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - CAN YOU SEE IT?.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 22, July 2015 09:11:59, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1531.
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What do you see? When you take a peek into your future, as a man, a woman, a parent, a husband, an employee, a business owner, as a Nigerian living and working in Nigeria, what can you see?

Are you in your twenties, your thirties, your forties, fifties, are you sixty and above? What can you see in tomorrow?

It is very important for anyone with ambition and the hope for a better tomorrow to have and hold a mental picture of his or her expectations of the future.

Too many of us are very much involved in the present, we devout too much of our attention, thinking and concern to our today. Wake up with our minds filled with the day's activities. We think along the lines of work, relationship, finances, various tasks and people requiring our time for the day.

We are mostly overwhelmed by the will to want to do so much every day, pressured by the need to do all we want to do for the day, hence we hardly pay enough attention to a weightier matter, which is the need to improve and enhance the quality of our tomorrow.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - RESULT ORIENTED LEADERSHIP.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 21, July 2015 10:41:47, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1286.
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I've heard several people talk on leadership, I've read several books on leadership, I've attended seminars, trainings and workshops on leadership and a common factor that cuts through all these occasions and experiences is the importance of leadership in achieving anything.

Amazingly however, when the term leadership is mentioned for many of us in career, our immediate focus is usually on someone telling others what to do. We start thinking of the people we believe are leading us or the people we believe we are leading.

 We immediately interpret leadership also in terms of positions, levels and titles. We assume some people ought to be the ones doing the thinking, creating the possibilities, charting the paths and all we do is just trust and obey. The high position and title holders are the presume leaders, we do not see ourselves thinking, acting and delivering results with a leadership kind of orientation or mind-set, our natural and acquired instincts and capacities for leadership is subjugated under titles, positions and

 

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING- STAYING PRINCIPLED; STAYING FOCUSED!.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 20, July 2015 10:32:00, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1409.
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Through the struggle, lack, scorn and insufficiencies, Opeyemi remained focused in school refusing to compromise her principles and morality.

As the first born of a struggling widow having two younger sisters also to carter for, It was quite tempting for Opeyemi to follow the crowd and exchange sexual favours with willing men in return for money and material needs. She resolved in her heart to shun such distractions and concentrate on her studies with the belief that graduating with very good grades would guarantee a good Job and an eventual emancipation from poverty and ridicule that have characterised her family since the death of her father about 11 years ago.

After so much struggle, sacrifice and hard-work Opeyemi eventually finished school topping her department as the best graduating accounting student.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - RULES TO RULE.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 16, July 2015 16:08:42, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1566.
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It's a natural feeling to want to be in control of your life. You want to be able to determine all that happens to you. You don't want to be at the receiving end of any bad situation, you really want to be able to determine your outcomes and your results.

When situations arise, we want to have answers, we want to be able to deal with it or handle it the way we deem fit. We love dominion because we are naturally created and designed by the creator to have dominion.

It is contrary to the nature of mankind not to crave for dominion. The primary mandate of mankind is to have dominion, not only have we been designed that way, we have been mandated by the maker to exercise dominion, consequently when we can't exercise dominion in any or several areas of our lives, we are frustrated, anxious and irritated.

Everyone wants to be in charge, especially of anything that affects them directly, we all hate helpless situations and even made worse is when our expected sources of help fails us.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - GAME OF LIFE.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 16, July 2015 10:18:47, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 2338.
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You know as someone in my kind of profession, I meet different people every day. As I go around speaking, training and conducting seminars in different places, many people approach me believing I'd have answers or suggestions regarding their various challenges and issues in life and career. I listen to them intently not just to suggest or recommend answers and solutions but also for me to learn; have something to ponder on and research on, so that I can be better at what I do and in my own ways and personal life as well.

Lately I met a young man who spoke to me candidly about his life and experiences and was wondering where the gap was between his reality and his expectations.

He spoke at length about how hard he had worked and is still working, how diligent and committed to work he was and how loyal he was to all his employers.

But still has nothing to show for all his work and commitment. A very intelligent young man without doubt, good looking too, he carried himself so well, spoke in very clear and impressive English and was very articulate in his communication.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - HOW IS YOUR TASTE.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 15, July 2015 08:49:03, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 2157.
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Lately I was in the company of a few younger guys who are still single; they're in their late twenties and early thirties and as common to this age range of guys, most of their conversation centred on the female gender; relationship and marriage.

There was one of these guys, very good looking, smart, has a good job and a lovely car. He's doing rather well for his age but he didn't have a girlfriend, he wasn't in any romantic relationship. However, his other friends, not doing as well financially and in career had girlfriends and were in steady relationships and they were trying to convince their single and still searching friend to ask one of his female colleagues out on a date.

His reaction was priceless, he was like no, no, no, I can't, me, ask her out on a date never! With an embarrassing expression and fidgety body language. And his friends kept putting him under pressure, trying to convince him to try and he may just be surprised she would go. They believe the duo would make a perfect pair; they believe she was just the right girl for him.

I interjected at that point and asked this gentle guy why he wouldn't want to ask this lady out on a date and his response surprised me; not because it wasn't a popular response but because it was coming from a guy so good looking and comfortable for his age.

 

 

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - BRILLIANT ON THE BASICS.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 14, July 2015 09:06:41, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1878.
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Hard work is important for anyone with an ambition; either rich, average or poor. As long as you desire a good life for yourself, working hard at it is inevitable. Many people who make average income assume the very rich hardly do anything laborious or strenuous, little do they know that the self-made rich people hardly sleep, not out of worry but excess workload. The major difference between the very rich and the average most likely lies in the number of hours they put into productive work. The rich would not stop working until they are done on a task while the average would stop working when it's time to close officially or when they are bored or tired of the task.

Those very expensive cars, lovely houses in lovely neighbourhoods, the first class compartment of world class airlines, the very beautiful yachts, the private jets and the pent house on sky scrapers in great cities all around the world are occupied by people who hardly sleep, people with brains functioning 24/7, people who don't bother and are not moved by if the time is 3am or 3pm, they just keep working till it's done, won't stop till it's achieved and never give up till they make the seemingly impossible possible. 

 

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - THE QUALITY OF YOUR DAY.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 13, July 2015 08:50:58, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1887.
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It's a common and popular prayer, at all times at various occasions, especially during birthdays, the prayer is always about long life and prosperity. I wish you long life and prosperity.

A long life is something we desire, cherish and appreciate. We all want to live long and fulfil the number of our days. We want to see our children's children, no one wants to die prematurely; long life is a blessing everyone prays for.

As much as we pray for long life and know it can only be handed and permitted by our creator, in my opinion, many hardly show any true appreciation for each day with the consciousness of it being a blessing or a privilege.

Many do not treat each day as a gift, we sleep; we wake up and just go about our daily activities as though we made the day happen.

We are daily overwhelmed by the various activities we have lined up for each day and we just keep going; all with the aim of securing, preserving and enjoying all we have even as we try to accumulate more.

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