TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - THE STIGMA OF MISTAKES.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 27, April 2015 10:33:07, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 403.
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As humans, many times we overrate ourselves in terms of our true power, potential and abilities. Many times we are encouraged to focus mainly on what we have the ability to do and deemphasise the realities of our limitations, inhibitions and weaknesses.

We are often encouraged to go for goals, achieve our dreams, our visions and make real our possibilities; hardly are we told how to make it within the constraints of our unique and peculiar weaknesses and limitations. We all have different limitations hence will require personalised support towards succeeding.

I am a strong advocate of success in life, but I'm also a realist when it comes to individual and collective weaknesses; hence I will not tell you what you can do or what you're capable of doing without teaching you the way to do it despite your personal constraints. It is not a balance approach to life when told your weaknesses don't matter and it's only your strengths that count. Many have been stopped by their weaknesses irrespective of their strengths. A balanced teaching I believe, should be on how you can still succeed in life despite your weaknesses. Your weaknesses are real and present, you cannot wish them away.

 

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - WHAT YOU TRULY VALUE.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 24, April 2015 09:44:10, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1205.
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I was amused, I was laughing but I was also disappointed by the gist my wife was sharing with me. According to her, she was at a leading private secondary school in Lagos to see a friend, then a lady; one of the parent to some students came around to see the school manager. It was on matters of bills; school fees precisely. This woman hadn't paid the school fees of her three children for the previous term and the school authorities were threatening not to allow her kids into class in this new term. That’s why she came around to plead with the management to be patient with her and give her some time to raise the money; promising she would pay as soon as she could.

After she left, the school manager in irritation began to share with my wife that the woman was given the school fees for the previous term by her husband to pay, but this woman decided to use the money to purchase some clothing and jewelleries for a wedding she considered important, holding at about that same time; believing she would be able to raise the money from someplace else, somehow to pay the fees, unfortunately, it didn't pan out like she planned. She had pleaded with the school authorities all through the previous term as she had come around to see the manager to confide in her and beg that they should cover her and not let her husband know. They found her behaviour ridiculous but not to cause her problems in her home with her husband, the school management didn't send the children home the previous term. It's a new term now and she's still begging for more time in order to pay the fees for the previous term.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - FINDING THE WAY.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 23, April 2015 09:48:41, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1038.
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Many of us are born with great potentials and ability to fulfil all our dreams and desires. At childhood we keep dreaming and imagining our future; bright, beautiful and full of success. We don't see, anticipate, envisage failure of any sort, we are super convinced we would accomplish all our dreams and expectations.

Many of us get very serious about making good success in life, we start early, going to school studying hard and deep, believing if we do all that's required, life will reward us with all that we desire.

While we're at it, we encourage ourselves with the very many people who has walked the path we're currently threading and became successful. We encourage ourselves in referring to successful people in our field of endeavour. We call the names of the achievers in our field, we call the names of successful lawyers, bankers, engineers, architects, pilots, surgeons , business men and the likes, we look at them and their lives and we smile; encouraged by their achievements and believing if they made it, we would make it as well.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - THE TRAP OF KNOWING.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 22, April 2015 09:18:56, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1298.
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And every day I keep looking at them and I keep wondering when I see them express excitement and pleasure in the fact that they have been able to discover themselves. I'm talking about folks whom through grace and knowledge have been able to identify exactly what their purpose is and how well equipped they are to fulfil their purpose.

I watch them as they talk to others about understanding purpose and how knowing one's purpose marks the beginning of a life with meaning. They keep nodding in approval when I'm teaching on discovering and understanding purpose and after my lectures they put up their hands not to ask questions but to further share what they know and their personal experience in discovering purpose and how happy they have become since they discovered theirs.

I look at them, listen to what they have to say then I try to reconcile their lives and what they're currently doing with what they keep saying and dear friends, I see a huge gap.

 

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - GET A LIFE.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 21, April 2015 09:23:36, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1319.
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Do you have your life? Please think about this question, do you really have charge of your life? I've heard statements like ‘get a life' on many occasion said to people who appear to be different and unconventional especially in matters of socializing. Many also think the whole concept of life and living is about fun, leisure and enjoyment. When an individual is having a great time, you hear remarks like he's enjoying life, when an individual is conservative and somewhat antisocial we conclude he doesn't have a life. Hmmm.

What is life? I believe life is a season or a duration when an individual is conscious, aware and involved in matters of this world. It is a period when an individual is expected to fulfil a purpose, serve a purpose, make something great happen, impact the world and influence things positively. I believe we all exist and are in this world to improve things and make better the condition of this earth.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - CHART DIRECTION NOW.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 20, April 2015 09:34:14, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1325.
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This morning I would like to speak to friends who are totally confused. I'm speaking of my friends who earnestly desire a better life, a more qualitative life, a much more exciting life and a life that has a meaning. I'm speaking of someone who's trying really hard to connect with my teachings daily as I speak about dreams, vision, purpose and accomplishment. To someone who is in dire need of help regarding that life of joy, peace and tranquillity.

I speak of that friend who's tried again and again to succeed but keeps meeting with failure. That one who's experienced disappointments and failure again and again. The friend without any more ideas on how to make sense with his or her life.

You see, to speak is easy, talk is really cheap, it really sounds good on radio, talking about succeeding, fulfilling dreams and ambition. It sounds just like a piece of cake to just wake up and do it, they begin to think and say; I'm speaking to that friend this morning, who's given up on the possibility of actualising any dream, any vision or arriving at a wonderful pre-determined destination.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - STANDING ALONE.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 17, April 2015 09:34:30, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 2057.
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I keep checking and reading and affirming the fact that every outstanding and successful person through history at a point in time had to stand alone.

No matter how wise, how clever, how magnanimous, how generous, how kind and selfless, a point came in their lives when everyone turned against them and even their loved ones abandoned them.

Kings, queens, warriors, inventors, scientists, religious leaders, sportsmen, empire builders, social reformers and revolutionists at a point in time had to take a stand and go for something everyone even their most loyal followers thought was crazy, absurd, unacceptable or extreme.

I've not seen or read about a man or woman of worth that didn't have to go through an alone moment.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - YOUR SEED NATURE.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 16, April 2015 09:48:57, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1409.
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I'm convinced many of us today, irrespective of our status and experiences in life still believe there is something great about us. We believe we have required potentials and possibilities to become great, become significant and valuable in life.

We may have been through very difficult situations, experienced very disappointing circumstances; setbacks, betrayal, failures and losses; in spite of all,  somewhere in our hearts, we just know and believe one day, the greatness we believe we carry will eventually manifest.

Little wonder, many who are completely lost today on how to manifest or connect with greatness have had to look on to divine intervention, hence they chase after spiritual consultants to help them discover their place and opportunities for breakthrough and prosperity.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - REPEATING PATTERNS.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 15, April 2015 09:24:02, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 2009.
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Marriage is a beautiful experience at the level of thought. The thought of a man and a woman in love sharing the rest of their lives together is indeed a pleasurable experience. Living together, talking together, laughing together, sharing together, sleeping together, being excited and thrilled about each other is an experience everyone should love to have and enjoy. Marriage can really be appealing at the point of just thinking about it.

However, the responsibility, hurt, disappointment, sacrifice, tolerance and pressure that comes with marriage can sometimes be so overwhelming that some people have had to quit their marriage. Marriage as exciting and thrilling as it appears can be very demanding and at times outright frustrating. It takes maturity, endurance, humility, patience and grace to succeed in marriage.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - SELF PREOCCUPATION.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 14, April 2015 09:43:56, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1714.
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What is life all about? Let's together think about this question. What is the meaning of life? Is it just about being born, existing for many years and dying at the end of it all? Is life about just being alive? Is life about having a breath and manifesting the characteristics of living things?

If life is about just existing then I'm afraid it lacks essence, as everyone still dies at the end. So if life is not about just having breath in our nostrils for a season, there then must be more to life than existing. Hmmm

What is your life about? Do you have a clear knowledge and understanding of why you exist? What is your purpose for living? Definitely not to stay alive for ever as you can't succeed at that, you will still pass on one day, everybody bows to death eventually. Dear friend, have you ever taken the time to sit down and think about your life?

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - MASTER YOUR CRAFT.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 13, April 2015 09:26:14, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1456.
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I believe everyone at least wants to be comfortable in life. You want to be able to pay all your bills without stress, afford things you really like and attend to financial emergencies when they occur. We all need money, money is important.

Many today are working hard for money, many are working under very unfair circumstances and terrible conditions but stick in there, because they need the money to survive.

I know several people working hard on their jobs, running around from dawn to dusk in labour and at the end of the day, their wages still can't cover their monthly expenses, much less savings and an eventual financial freedom.

Many people have their lives trapped in the rat race; running for survival, earning a living and not living their lives. The need for financial sufficiency is so crucial they are willing to make serious sacrifices to be just over broke.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - THE FORMULAR FOR CHANGE.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 10, April 2015 09:54:13, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1625.
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I heard the statement again, from a friend to another, I was seeing a movie, her husband was behaving badly and she'd come to this friend to complain and seek advice. She began to lament to her friend saying she's tired and tried to change her man but he wouldn't just change, and this friend in trying to console her friend said it, ‘people don't change, you can't change anybody, he's always been that way, it is the real him that is coming out now'. Hmm.

I've heard this remark over and over again especially in matters of love and relationships. And surprisingly people are beginning to believe it and accept it.

Do people really change or people never change? Why is this opinion that people can't change becoming so popular and acceptable?

It's amazing how people just want to believe and accept the convenient and not the truth. In my opinion people do change. People change every day, I have changed a great deal, this wasn't how I was, how I thought or behaved five to ten years ago. I have changed tremendously. Take a look at you too, is this how you used to think and behave five years ago or ten years ago? I believe you have changed too, people change and become different from how they used to be every now and again, yes people do change.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - THE BEST, NOT THE STRESS.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 09, April 2015 10:13:33, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1816.
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Many of us today are going through serious stress in life. We are daily experiencing different types and degrees of difficulty in life. We keep going through one challenge after another. We find life very complicated and demanding. We are so worked up and for many it's hard to sleep, we are anxious, fearful and unsettled.

Many have lost hope and confidence in themselves to be able to deal with these issues and handle these challenges so much so that religion has become their only escape and consolation.

Many safely assume the pain and stress they're going through is common to all hence, they are not even thinking of ways out. They believe serious problems is part of everyone's life; it's not just them, so they're relaxed in their troubles believing it is how life is.

 

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - IRREPAIRABLE LOSS.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 08, April 2015 10:15:21, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1324.
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Life can be quite challenging at times. Life can be tough and even perceived as unfair. We go through tough times and difficult situations often and we get so overwhelmed we are tempted to throw in the towel.

Life is full of uncertainties hence, we are besieged with feelings and emotions of fear, anxiety, worry, depression, discouragement, apprehension, panic and distress.

We worry about losses, accidents, rejection, heartbreak, disappointment, lack, disgrace, embarrassment and even death. We worry, yes we worry. Hmmm. Life can be tough.

Recently in my mentoring class, a young man who is visually impaired came to speak with me after my session. He was very excited and spoke with so much passion about his dreams and vision. He shared with me the different things he has lined out as his plans, the various projects he wants to carry out and how he intends to help and support others who are visually impaired as well. He is of the opinion people who have lost their sight are not adequately encouraged and supported by our society and he wants to do something about it.

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - CHANGE THROUGH EXAMPLE.
By Muyiwa Afolabi, On 07, April 2015 10:19:43, in the Category Frankly Speaking.Total Views 1052.
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I think the greatest clamour by all men all over the world is change! Discussions, arguments, debates, advocacies, global interaction, negotiations, political jawjaws, campaigns, movements, and submissions and the likes are all centre around change.

 Change in orientation, behaviour, change in lifestyle, change in living standards, change in laws and constitutions, change in culture, religion, tradition, processes, procedures, politics, policies, management, and considerations.

 Daily, presidents, opinion leaders, group heads, unions, schools of thought, researchers, and the academia including various respected voices all over the world keep canvassing for change in order to improve our world. International relations and diplomacies are instruments daily employed to persuade or influence different nations around the world to subscribe to change in certain aspects and ideologies. Change is what we all want; we believe change is what we need.

 

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