Tricia was all by herself at home that Friday evening. She was bored, lonely and irritated. She arrived at Lagos that morning from Asaba to come spend the weekend with her fiancé Johnson in Lagos. They hadn’t seen each other since their introduction three weeks earlier and as the wedding plans were becoming more intense it was quite imperative she came to Lagos to dot the Is and cross the Ts on their wedding plans, the agreement was for the ceremony to hold by the end of the year.
Tricia, age 27, a banker worked at Asaba, Delta state. She studied Banking and Finance at Uniport and after her service year two years ago secured employment with one of the leading banks in Nigeria.
A very intelligent, focused and hardworking lady; passionate and diligent, she was a lady with high self-esteem who believed so much in herself, her potentials and possibilities.
Dr. Mrs. Thomas looked intently at Andrew sitting on the sofa to the right of her desk in her office that hot Friday evening. She was a bit agitated about this young man and how it's been so difficult to get him to brace up and deal with his issues. But as a professional, her body language or countenance didn't betray her true emotions. She still had that sweet, encouraging smile on her face, “this young man must get a grip and just do the needful’ she thought to herself.
The office was quiet and she could hear him sniffle and snuffle and he intermittently grimaced out of emotional pain and frustration, he would throw both hands up and sigh heavily; collapse on the comfortable sofa and almost immediately sit up straight again. He was obviously in torment; emotional and psychological distress, he was confused and very exasperated.
Grief can have devastating effects on the type of person you choose while you are still actively grieving. Many people do not realize they are grieving so are at-risk of choosing dangerously while being impaired by their grief. Some assume that grief is related only if your partner has recently died and if you are currently still saddened by the loss. But actually grieving occurs when any relationship ends-whether it is anticipated, desired, prepared for, or not. The longer the relationship existed, the longer the grief normally takes.
Persons are often distressed to learn that there should be a 'time out’ from dating or future relationships when one relationship has ended.
It was a long day today at the office, I had a lengthy meeting with Lawrence my colleague. We finalized the details of the strategy we hope to present to this new client; we desperately need to win this account, for me it's a must do.
The traffic was so bad driving home for a Thursday. It seemed like a first Friday of the month traffic where religious people drive towards different gatherings and centers for vigils.
I got home a bit late and didn't really like that; knowing I had to go out that evening again.
I'm a bit confused and upset tonight. Truth is, I'm very worried but don't really know what to do or say. I look at Taiwo, my wife lying down beside me sleeping peacefully. I can't sleep, I'm disturbed; I'm really upset.
It was about 8:30am already this morning when I realised I had left behind at home my personal laptop containing an important presentation to a major client at 2pm in the afternoon.
In a perfect world we would only ever fall in love with a person who would reciprocate. Unfortunately, we do not live in a perfect world and for this reason we often tend to fall in love with people who are unavailable to us, either emotionally or for some other reason. There are a million reasons why a person might not be available to us and no matter what the reason is the outcome is usually the same, walking away with a broken heart. But, is there a way to deal with something like this and make it a bit easier on yourself? Some people believe there is and others just believe that you must go through your heartaches and see them through to the end.
Children are so much better off in a nuclear family, and unfortunately there are far too many families that have failed. While both husband and wife have the responsibility to build and strengthen their marriage to provide a stable environment for children, there are many things men can do as husbands and fathers to try to protect and preserve their marriage relationships and avoid a divorce and the issues that come from it.
Banish divorce from your thoughts. If you have an idea that you would be better off outside the marriage; that thought alone can cause a major break in your motivation to make it better. Simply deciding that divorce is not an option will help you focus on what you can do rather than on what you don't want to do.
Your marriage looks like it’s over and your spouse has told you s/he wants a divorce. Perhaps s/he's even moved out. Maybe s/he's even having an affair. How do you stop fighting? How do you get him/her to change his/her mind and stay?
Act confident. Your spouse fell in love with a happy and balanced person whose world lit up every time s/he walked into the room. It's understandable you're unhappy that s/he's pulling away from you, but the more you cling, need, and desperately try to hang on, the more unhappy you are (since it's obvious by now that s/he's leaving you), and the less and less you are the person s/he once fell in love with. Be honest with yourself;
Here are 10 principles of success I have learned from working with and observing hundreds of couples:
Happiness is not the most important thing. Everyone wants to be happy, but happiness will come and go. Successful couples learn to intentionally do things that will bring happiness back when life pulls it away.
Couples discover the value in just showing up. When things get tough and couples don't know what to do, they need to hang in there and be there for their spouse. Time has a way of helping couples work things out by providing opportunities to reduce stress and overcome challenges.
Too many married women today are tired of the conduct and behaviours of their husbands. They’ve tried all they can to keep him faithful, loyal and honest but keep failing. Many have tried ‘love’, threat, blackmail, embarrassment, harassment, nagging and even reporting him to relevant authorities, yet he’s refused to change.
Many have tried prayer and fasting and are tired, the guy appears to be getting worse. At the end, many wives have given up and come to the conclusion all men are like that;